The original inspiration for
these pages was to support those new to, in the process of, and healing
from the big "D" -- Divorce.
These Suggested Internet sources
were taken from various posts
from the good folks on the news group alt.support.divorce
,
the listserv divorcetalk@onelist.com which you can join here
www.onelist.com and some other resources.
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alt.support.divorce:
Newsgroup (Net News)
Information -- This is an info/help
file on newsgroups -- with links
for more info, programs for newsgroup
reading, instant messaging / personal networking (ICQ, AOL IM, etc.)
and IRC chat rooms. A sampling
of Emoticons and Abbreviations
(& abbreviations specific for alt.support.dicvorce). There is info
on spam, netiquette, trolls, and more.
ASD
Folks -- A page of people who have been on alt.support.divorce.
This page has recently been taken over by Daisy and Victoria "Lee." Victoria's
mirror site is Here.
What Helps Page
-- An ASD page on a thread "What helps/advice," put together by Victoria
"Lee."
Soul
letters -- A project to collect people's stories,
for healing.
Everything
you wanted to know about Trolls, but afraid to ask
-- A good info page on how to deal with trolls and abusive posts on newsgroups.
What
are Trolls -- A good site for info on what are
trolls and abusers on newsgroups.
General Divorce Sources
Top
Ten Divorce Sites -- From a top ten sites page
(rated, and u can rate) at toptenlinks.com.
They have over 500 top ten lists for every interest. The following ten
links are from there (6/98).
The List: In rated order 1-10
divorce-online.com
-- A sight that has a lot of free articles on many aspects of divorce.
divorcewizards.com
-- A slightly commercial page, but has many nice free services, including
these
top ten lists;
like the 10 best things for your children, to top ten questions to ask
your lawyer.
divorcesource.com
-- Lots of nice links here -- archives, chat, bulletin board, etc.
divorcesupport.com
-- And lots of nice links here also.
divorcehelp.com
-- Learn how to reduce conflict, negotiate an agreement and stay out of
court. Award-winning author, 25 years of proven success. All free! Short
articles on hot topics. Answers to questions people ask (or should ask!).
divorcemag.com--
Divorce Magazine. Gives you some content, though they want you to subscribe
to the mag.
divorcenet.com
-- Claims to be The Net's Largest Divorce Resource Since May 1995, Does
have a lot of stuff.
flyingsolo.com
-- A sight concerned with issues in divorce and seperation and for the
elderly and disabled. Issues include custody and visitation, alimony and
support, property division, state-specific information based on local law,
taxation, bankruptcy and divorce, estate and health planning, mediation,
etc.
divorcecentral.com
-- Divorce Central, a link to friends, resources, information, and expertise.
Some nice stuff here.
divorceinfo.com
-- The information on this site is the equivalent of a 700-page book all
about divorce, organized so you can quickly and easily find the straightforward,
practical information you need.
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More:
divorcesupport.miningco.com
-- Your Mining Company Guide To Divorce Support. Nice support page with
many links.
Children Support
kids-support.com
-- For tons of information on child support that may help.
leginfo.ca.gov--
For child support, go to the government search page, look for family law,
search for child support, section 4055. Do the math yourself.
parentswithoutpartners.org
-- A good organization for all of you with children! "The
problems are many in bringing up our children alone, contending with the
emotional conflicts of divorce, never-married, separation or widowhood.
PWP Inc. is an international organization that provides real help in the
way of discussions, professional speakers, study groups, publications and
social activities for families and adults. Through the exchange of ideas
and companionship, we hope to further our common welfare and the well-being
of our children."
They might have a chapter in your area.
underwatch
-- For pictures of parentally abducted children, and resources for these
problems. There is reward money up to $1 million dollars for the return
of some of these children.
Visitation
sharedparenting.com
-- Shared Parenting Forum Welcomes You To The Virtual Conference on Parenting
Arrangements After Parental Separation. Some of this is Canada specific,
the rest is national.
Children's
Rights Council of Maryland -- Children's Rights
Council of Maryland - For further information contact Alfred Ellis, tel
301 590-8623 or Harvey Walden, tel 301 588-0262.
The Children's Rights Council of Maryland announces the
opening of the third Child Access Transfer Center in Maryland. The new
Center in Potomac, Maryland.
The Center will provide for the monitored exchange of
children of divorced, separated, and never married parents who are having
problems with visitation schedules.
The Children's Rights Council is a national nonprofit
organization that works to decrease hostility in the divorce and separation
process, to keep both parents and the extended family involved with children,
and to maintain strong family ties. The Council, although working to preserve
families, recognizes the stresses of divorce and separation. The CRC strives
to help children and parents through this difficult time. These Centers
are run by volunteer monitors, and there is no fee for the service.
CRC's
page on Joint Custody -- Joint custody legislation
from around the country is now available at the site below. Included are
excerpts from the bills and links to the full text. Click on "Joint custody
legislation."
mytwohomes.com
-- My Two Homes ® The Divorce Calendar for Kids! Special products to
help kids of divorce and their parents!
nolawyer.com
-- Visitation Enforcement Software. (Commercial site for software to help
with litigation -- no reviews available).
JUMP To 
Legal/nonLegal Info Aimed For Women
divorcesource.com/search/women
-- Womens Divorce Source: Many nice links for women from divorcesource.com
.
MotherLinC
-- MOM-LAC is changing its name! We are soon to be
called MotherLinC.
MOM-LAC (MOMs Living Apart from their Children) is a
group of Seacoast New Hampshire mothers who do not have custody of their
children. There are also chapters in many cities.
Mothers become non-custodial for a number of reasons.
Some of us have had our children torn from us by an unjust court system.
It seems to boil down to, not who is the better parent, but who has the
better lawyer. Other non-custodial mothers have given up their children
voluntarily, feeling that this is best for the children in that family's
particular situation.
Mothers without custody have a difficult time being accepted.
Some of us have heard the line: "You don't have custody of your children?
What did you do??" The implication is that only unfit mothers are non-custodial.
THIS IS NOT TRUE!
Legal/nonLegal Info Aimed For Fathers
A
custody story -- One person's story about divorce
and gaining custody. Some excellent straight forward advice.
midwest.net/fathers
-- Mostly a site that tries to sell what looks like good info like the
Guide to Fathers Rights. There is a good link page here:
fathers/links.htm:
The Single fathers' Lighthouse.
"I became a single custodial father over six years ago.
I was lost, scared and had no idea how to "do it all on my own." My intent
for this page is to be the place that I needed when I started on this terrifyingly
wonderful journey. I honor all parents, single or partnered, Moms and Dads.
Some nice links from a fellow single parent.
National Conference
on Father's and Children -- Some nice links. Individual
Dads get hurt every day in divorce/custody/support litigation. While others
attack each other, NCFC FIRST AID KITS and other NCFC resources can help
stop the bleeding. The home of the First Aid for Fathers, like:
No Lawyer.com
-- Some free forms etc., like; nolawyer/nappl.html
-- For Appealing from Unsatisfactory New Decree/Judgment .
FARCE
-- Fathers Awareness of Rights and Custody Equality. "Our
main goal will be to ensure proper education and legal assistance to any
Father faced with the custody or the separation from his child."
fathersattorneys.com
-- Fathers Family Law Attorney Find - a non-profit group to help fathers.
F.R.E.E. -- The
Fathers' Rights & Equality Exchange (F.R.E.E.[tm]) "is
a not- for-profit organization dedicated to the premise that parenting
is a 50/50 proposition. As such, both fathers and mothers should share
equally in the parenting and support of their children."
Fathers
Are Parents To Inc. -- Based in Georgia. "...is
a coalition of Mothers, Fathers, Grandparents and others, working to ensure
the rights of children to have a loving nurturing relationship with both
of their parents and their families."
Texas
Fathers -- Texas Fathers for Equal Rights.
fathersrightsNY.com
-- Fathers' Rights of Western New York, based in Buffalo, NY, (716)
635-8323
France
father's groups -- For Father's groups in France.
U.K.
Fathers -- Is an interesting page, aimed at UK
fathers though it relates to the state of most fathers in divorce. I don't
agree with all the generalizations made, though it is rather eye opening.
Quebec
Fathers -- Another support group for Fathers seeking
more rights to their children, in Montreal,Quebec,Canada is GEPSE.
Domestic Violence
domesticviolence.org--
Domestic Violence handbook online. Many resources as well.
W.I.S.E.
-- Domestic Violence Information Manual. W.I.S.E.
- Women's Issues and Social Empowerment, plus links.
telisphere.com/lpeters
-- Domestic Violence Information for men and women. Child-custody issues,
and an online bookstore -- Leigh-Ann Peters, Hiding in the Closet, no more!
Newsgroup: alt.support.domestic-violence
geocities.com/HotSprings/2656
-- A page dedicated to those dealing with a loved who has been sexually
molested or raped.
Legal Sites
divorce.net
-- Legal Net.
divorceinfo.com/statebystate
-- Some state by state legal information.
fathers-rights.com
-- R Isaacs has written a new book on how to fight
false claims of domestic abuse.
familycourts.com
-- The Family Court Reform Council Of America &
The National PAS Foundation. Dedicated to increasing awareness of the dangers
to families and children in divorce courts.
justicefirst.org
-- Justice First! Our Goals: To educate citizens regarding
their rights and the government's responsibility to not only recognize
that we have rights, but to protect those rights. Over the last few decades
the government has decided it exists to enforce laws instead of protecting
its citizens. This has been nothing but a creeping move from freedom to
tyranny.
To seek to provide information to those who have been
the victims of unjust laws and government policy.
To inform "victims" how to file complaints with the proper
authorities concerning the conduct of public officials who fail to live
up to their oath of office.
Some of this is specific to Georgia. Most is national.
The
Other Parent -- This Page is dedicated to preserving
the rights of the Non-Custodial Parent Families don't end, Marriages do!
Discussion of the unfairness of courts and laws concerning divorced parents.
raw-deal.com - A
site for folks who think they got a bad deal or falsely accused during
a divorce or in other circumstances. There are links to activist and other
sites.
JUMP To
Annulments, Catholic
divorceinfo.com/catholic
-- Divorce.info page on annulment with a number of
nice links.
archdiocese-phl.org/tribunal/tribproc
-- Straight forward page on annulment process.
The Jewish Gett, Divorce
The Jewish Gett, Divorce
-- An article written by Natalie K Bjorklund on what
is a Gett, all the practicals about it, and what to do when things go wrong.
Straight Spouses of Gay and Lesbian Partners
Resource
Center for Spouses of Gay or Lesbian Partners -- A
private, safe resource center for Straight Spouses of Gay and Lesbian partners
- To share common issues, receive recovery support, exchange topical resources
and freely express personal experiences, such as impact issues upon children,
friends, family and social environment.
S.S.N. -- The
Straight Spouse Network (SSN), formerly known as the Straight Spouse Support
Network, is an international support network of heterosexual women and
men, formerly or currently partnered with gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered
mates. Members provide confidential personal support and information to
spouses and children across the United States and abroad. SSN is the only
support group of its kind in the world.
support str8 spouses of gays
-- An AOL only board for support. with a weekly chat; chat announcement
posted every mon. with the link to the room (takes place mon nite from
10-12). It is picked up by AOL's news reader (AOL members only I'm afraid).
Relationships: Family and Couples
An
Article About Relationships -- I've tried to draw
out some of the dynamics between men and women drawing on the insights
of John Gray and Carl Jung in the following article: These authors are
rich in showing examples of our different sides and how they are projected
onto our mates leading to attraction and repulsion.
secondwivesclub.com
-- The Second Wives Club - Is to provide a safe haven
for women who are currently involved in either a subsequent marriage for
either the wife or husband and/or who are involved in a blended family,
to network with others who share common ground and to give and receive
support, information, and friendship. "The Second Wives Club" encourages
the building and maintaining of co~operative relationships both within
the club and the family.
"The Second Wives Club" intends to help develop positive
attitudes and behaviors and to enable women in blended family situations
to live and grow with confidence, respect, and zeal as a wife, mother,
and individual.
AAMFT -- American
Association For Marriage and Family Therapy
Medical
psycom.net
-- Psycom.net which has a book central, International Journal of Psychopathology,
Psychotherapy, Psychopharmacology and more, and has the following 2 pages:
/~bradj/father
-- Is a list of hot-buttoned resources. Includes:
future.net/~bradj/it
- What clients should watch out for and insist on, and how the profession
could be better.
Borderline
Personality Disorder -- A page on Borderline Personality
Disorder Symptoms (BPD). With links for treatment, online resources, organizations,
and online Support.
BPD
Information and Links -- "There is a ton of information
available via the Internet about BPD. This is one of my favorite sites
because it lists so many other sites with information about BPD."
Stop
Walking On EggShells, and Resources -- Some
BPD and mental disorders resources on this page that is also for the book
"Stop Walking On EggShells."
Suicide
Suicide
Resources -- A good page for those in need. With
some links.
Dealing
With The Suicidal -- A page mainly aimed at those
dealing with someone who is suicidal.
mhnet.org/samaritans
-- The samaritans exists to provide confidential emotional
support to any person, who is suicidal or despairing; and to increase public
awareness of issues around suicide and depression.
News Groups & Listservs
Newsgroup (Net News)
Information -- This is an info/help
file on newsgroups -- with links
for more info, programs for newsgroup
reading, instant messaging/personal networking
(ICQ, AOL IM, etc.), and IRC chat rooms. A sampling of Emoticons
and Abbreviations (& abbreviations
specific for alt.support.dicvorce). There is info on spam, netiquette,
trolls, newsgroups and the programs used to read them.
News Groups:
alt.support.divorce
alt.support.divorce.jewish
alt.support.parents.with-custody
alt.support.single-parents
alt.support.step-parents
alt.support.marriage
alt.support.depression
alt.support.depression.manic
alt.support.depression.medication
alt.support.depression.recovery (There are numerous depression
support groups -- search through the list)
us.legal.self-represent -- It appears that a new Usenet
Newsgroup devoted to Pro-Se litigation is up and running. Check if your
ISP carries it yet.
www.onelist.com
-- Search here for divorce & join divorcetalk@onelist.com. There are
many others lists to join as well. They ask you to register with them,
in order to get on the lists. All free.
FAQ's
-- MIT ftp for FAQs (frequently asked questions). Great collection of faqs
for newsgroups.
Tile.Net
/ Mailing Lists -- Lists of Listservs, Vendors, Newsgroups, Internet
sites, Ftp sites -- Sign up for mailing lists.
IRC, Chat Channels
If you are in need of immediate support (depression), please
visit our undernet channel -- [ #spade ]
Please check out our website at http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/Spa/2312:.
On the site, is a link to download mIRC, the program
necessary to access the undernet. This is also free of any charge.
All of our operators and administrators are available
for support, as well as others that are regular vistiors to our channel.
You will always find helpfull information, and a caring person to speak
with. I, or another operator, will be happy to speak with you, either in
channel, or in private, around the clock.
| For anyone going through a Divorce, I recommend
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