The original inspiration for these pages was to inspire those new to, in the process of, and healing from the big "D" -- Divorce. These Quotes are here for anyone to reflect on, to help grow with, to heal with, and to help you find meaning in your life. Enjoy! Please add to this list -- Send additions/changes to: billbo@ArkansasUSA.com

. . Quotes To Reflect On. . . . , ,, , , ,,   INDEX . . . . . . . An Angel Said Nice quotes  One-Liners That make you think. Relationships and Growing. Divorce and ASD. Growth  and perspective. Choices a very inspiring story.   Go to: alt.support.Divorce Resource List Index Or Other BillBo Pages

"Enter by the narrow gate;
for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction,
and there are many who go in by it." -- Matthew 7:13

 

"At some time in the future during my growth toward becoming a full person, there will be a day when my cup runneth over so profusely that the need will arise for another person to soak up the excess."

We should do everything Within Reason To save a good relationship But if we are constantly Trying to save it It's probably not a good relationship. Javan from his book "Meet Me Halfway"

    An intimate relationship does not banish lonliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are and can function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes. -- Patricia Fry

----------- I have this quote on my computer, and refer to it every day. It helps me get through some tough times when I think I need a man in my life. I guess that means I am not yet functioning independently. -- Maggie Guglielmo (Every day, do something for your body, your mind, and your spirit)
 
 

 

"Forgiveness is not the misguided act of condoning irresponsible, hurtful behavior.
Nor is it a superficial turning of the other cheek that leaves us feeling victimized and martyred.
Rather it is the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."
        --- Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., Fire In The Soul

 
 

---

---

Growth
 

"Those tiny drops of humanity. Those round, wet balls of fluid that tumble from our eyes, creep down our cheeks, and splash on the floor of our hearts.... They are miniature messengers, on call twenty-four hours a day to substitute for crippled words. They drip, drop, and pour from the corner of our souls, carrying with them the deepest emotions we possess." ---- From Max Lucado's book, "God Came Near".

 

 
 

In my first thirty years of life                I roamed hundreds & thousands of miles. Walked by rivers through deep green grass Entered cities of boiling red dust. Tried potions, but couldn't make Immortal; Read books and wrote poems    on history.      Today I'm back      at Cold Mountain:   I'll sleep by the creek      and purify my ears.                       - Han-shan

'Unfortunately, I'm not that confident myself.
I've been given a great deal,
and I've wanted a lot.
And I've ended up not really having anything
and not really knowing what I want.
I've acquired the basics of an education.
I've travelled.
Occasionally I've felt that I've done what I wanted to do.
And yet I've been directed.
Some invisible hand has had me by the scruff of the neck,
and every time I thought that I was taking an important step
up toward the light,
it has pushed me further
into a network of sewer pipes
running
beneath a landscape
that I cannot see.
As if it had been determined
that I would have to swallow
a specific amount of wastewater
before I would be allowed a breathing hole.'

        -- Smilla Qaavigaaq Jasperson in: Peter Høeg, 1992, Smilla's Sense of Snow, Dell Publishing, NY., p.145
 
 

 

Ode to ASD (alt.support.divorce) We are reeds bent not broken battered not bruised (not permanently) We are trampled the prints of boots pressing us in the mud wearing a path through our hearts We are windblown leaning toward warmth yet chilled carelessly disregarded We are eaten up the beasts that wander the teeth that grind tearing away our lives We are reeds bent, battered, trampled yet green and regrowing             --- Lori

Top Ten Divorce Quotes of the Week:

1. " Live for today.... yesterday was hard enough"
2. " Love is what happens to a man and a woman who don't know each other"
3. " Divorce is so final, but friendships linger on"
4. " Make sure your happy at all times"
5. " Everyday is the beginning of a new tomorrow"
6." Perhaps the dream ...is only in the journey"
7." When a door closes, a window opens"
8. " It's what you learn ... after you know... is all that maters"
9. " You never get over divorce... you go on living and loving and caring"
10." The most difficult years of marriage are those following the wedding"
---------
11. You must learn from the mistakes of others. You can't possibly live long enough to make them all yourself! -- Zimm
---------
12. There are 3 sides to every coin. Perspective is everything. -- David --> Four, if you count the inside. -- D --> See what divorce does to perspective? -- David.

 

---

---

Choices

    Jerry is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude.
    He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
    Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today.You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining,I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."
    "Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
    "Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."
    I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
    Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers.While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.
    Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"
    I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
    "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live."
    "Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked. Jerry continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine.But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a deadman'. I knew I needed to take action."
    "What did you do?" I asked.
    "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry."She asked if I was allergic to anything. 'Yes,' I replied. "The Doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. "I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!'
    Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead'." Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
        Attitude, after all, is everything.

You have two choices now:
1. Delete this.
2. Forward it to the people you care about.
Hope you will choose #2. -- pete.

Jump to

These Quotes were taken from various posts from the good folks on the newsgroup alt.support.divorce , the listserv divorcetalk@onelist.com which you can join here www.onelist.com and some other resources. Please add to this list -- Send additions/changes to: billbo@ArkansasUSA.com

---

---

Suggestions, Comments, Questions, Links not working!--Please contact billbo@ArkansasUSA.com

---

Back to Top of Page . . . . . .          . . . . . or Jump to 

Or Go To:
Other BillBo Pages

 

..  ..Main Page - Index Page .BillBo's Home Page ..  ..Music Page .Grateful Dead Page ..  ..A Collection of Humor

.A Collection of Animated gifs ..  ..Quotes To Reflect & Grow On .alt.support.Divorce Resource List ..... Indexes and Search Engines .Personal Networking With People